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Dear exhausted mom striving for homeschool perfection.
I have great news for you! News that you will find liberating!
THERE IS NO SUCH A THING AS HOMESCHOOL PERFECTION!
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Here! I said it! It took me a long time to find this out, but I did! On my last drop of hope, I finally got it and gave up on homeschool perfection!
I gave up on having the perfect homeschool room as well, that never gets used and of buying curriculum other moms brag about that don’t work for my children and are not a perfect fit for us!
In fact, I had an epiphany and gave up perfection all together! Perfection according to others, books, and magazines. Perfection that brings comparison. It’s what makes me constantly dissatisfied, constantly upset because things did not go according to my big unrealistic plans I copy from somebody else! Yes, this kind of perfection sucks and I’m will not continue to be a perfectionist.
I’m not striving for perfection anymore! I’ll strive for joy, peace, and memories in our homeschool instead, doing what works for us, at our own pace, within our own natural abilities. No pressure, no hurries, no comparisons.
Don’t let the “homeschool perfection” you see in pictures on social media of “perfect homeschool moms” doing the “perfect activities” with their “perfect kids” fool you!
That is simply not true! We all have our imperfect days – ALL OF US! And they happen more often around here I can guarantee you that. A picture is NOT worth a thousand words. For instance, we had Poetry Teatime today and before I tell you the whole story, take a look at my Instagram post. 😉
Now, close your eyes and imagine having that perfect homeschooling day where everyone is loving it and have a big smile on their faces? What was it like? What were you doing? How were you learning? You are on this homeschool journey with your heart and your soul because you love your children and you want the best for them!
I'll tell you this, my kids still think the best thing for them is when mommy is fully present, cuddling on the sofa (even if some of them are upside down on the sofa), reading them stories and talking about it afterward. We have the best conversations after reading books together and draw many lessons from it.
So, ditch perfection all together and trade it for your full presence being simply yourself!
Maybe we just need to simplify our great ideals of a perfect homeschool and focus on seeing beauty in the ordinary moments of our days instead.
After all, our children are learning and growing beautifully as we simply love on them. And you are making memories together - and that, dear homeschool mom - it's just PERFECT!
And with all these things, love, which is the bond of perfection. Colossians 3:14.
Your turn: How does this post speak to you? What can you let go in order to find perfect peace and joy in your homeschool and life?
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Perfect post on not being perfect! I find that what we feel are “perfect” days change from year to year too. We’re trying to find our new balance. I used to say our perfect days were spent listening to stories and playing games together but my oldest is just about in those teen years and he has been rolling his eyes and giving me such grief about listening to read alouds and playing the games I have planned. We’re trying to come up with a compromise we can both live with and I know that it will take a bit of time for us to find a schedule that we’re all happy with again. I have learned that there are pretty much never perfect days but I do live for those moments. There are perfect moments in most days and that what’s I strive to create with my boys. I am pinning and sharing this EVERYWHERE!
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Thank you for the reminder that our family is different than everyone else. What works for someone else is not always a good fit for us. Our children may have different learning styles and what is the “perfect curriculum” for one family, may be a waste of time and money for another. My husband and I work nights and weekends, so I do find it very difficult to take our children to homeschool events very often and I usually end up feeling guilty about it. However, I know that our kids have plenty of interaction during the week and I shouldn’t let it bother me so much. Just because we can’t attend every meeting, conference or event does not mean that our children are getting any less of an education. It’s just nice to hear it sometimes and know that I am not the only one who battles the fear of not being good enough.
Absolutely, Wendy! You’re so right! Do what works for your family and that is the best for your family. Last year we went a whole year without taking any extra classes and it was wonderful for our family. No one felt guilty. We spent more time together, spent less money and had more time on our calendars open to doing whatever we wanted. Don’t you love the flexibility homeschooling gives us? 😀
Good post
Amen! I have struggled with many of the same health issues you had. It is hard to find the energy to do much somedays. My biggest struggle is letting my phone or phone calls distract me from schooling and then I sometimes snap at my kids when I’m being the selfish one. So for me turning it off until we are done for the day.
Thank you for the reminder that perfection is going to look different for everyone, and certainly won’t look like what’s in a magazine! (Or social media) My kids need me to be their mama, not me trying to be like everyone else.
Amen, Jessica! We all need this reminder, right?
What a good reminder! In my experience, sometimes it’s on the least “perfect” homeschool days, that I think my kids actually experience the most meaningful learning.
I agree! 🙂
Shalom and thank you! A great reminder about why we homeschool to begin with.
Amen! 🙂
This was a good reminder of what’s really important and an encouragement to put perfectionism in the past.
Amen!!
A refreshing reminder to slow down, and look to what is important and realize that the “perfect” moment may not actually feel very perfect. And that striving for perfection is,…well, strife.
Isn’t it true? 🙂
Thank you for the great reminder. We all need a refresher sometimes. 🙂
Yes, we do, Kim! 🙂
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good job. perfect for this time.
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Thank you!
Such a great reminder about what is really important to/for your kids as well as yourself!
I find myself getting so attached to following a routine organized by curriculum, but then it becomes a drudgery. But I agree. My favorite time is reading with my kids. I need to allow myself the freedom to read together and just enjoy the spontaneity that comes from reading and discussion. The hardest part seems to be giving myself permission to do so. Thank you for this post!
You’re so welcome!! I feel like the more books we read together, the more we learn in a relaxing way and we’re also teaching them to love reading. 🙂
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Thank you! I needed this. I’ve just pushed myself too hard and burnt myself out. I’ve got adrenal fatigue and feel like I can’t do it all. Homeschool has suffered as a result. I was quite disappointed as my goal was consistency and I haven’t accomplished that. I kept comparing to everyone I see online and felt like I’ve failed because everyone else seem to be consistent and I can’t seem to do it. It might take me a while to put it into practice but a vision of making memories sounds so much more satisfying. Thanks ❤️